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It hardly seems possible that just a month ago I was lamenting yet another negative result yet here I am with a big fat positive in my hands. Two in fact.

I did the first test yesterday morning, which was really the absolute earliest I could do it with a hope of getting a positive. I don’t know why but this month I just felt it might be the one. So without telling B what I was up to, I scuttled off to the loo as soon as I woke up and weed on the stick. This is what I got.

I seemed to recall reading that any hint of a line indicates a positive, but when I showed it to B, he was doubtful, saying it was really faint. So although I was pretty certain this was a positive I rushed out to Boots to get another one.

This morning (again without telling B) I rushed off to the bathroom again first thing, and went through the actions again. This time there is no doubt.

There it is, as clear as day. I AM PREGNANT! After 7 months of trying and 6 years after my last positive pregnancy test, L is going to have the longed for baby brother or sister finally!

I rushed back to the bedroom, clutching the wee-covered stick, grinning my head off. “Look, I am, I told you” I tell B as I thrust the slightly unhygienic article at him. “What?” he splutters? “1 or 2 babies? Is that what it’s saying?” I did manage to calm him down as I explained that technology is not that advanced yet, and it’s just telling me it’s 1-2 weeks since conception. No sh1t, Sherlock! I’ve been charting every day, I know it is!

Anyway, the relief and the excitement in our house is enormous. This means my due date is mid-November 2012. My body is weird – with L we tried to conceive for 8 months before I got pregnant and she was born (late and induced) on the 8th December. This time round it has taken us 7 months and it will be another winter baby, born just weeks before L’s birthday. It would appear that my body won’t let me be pregnant for Christmas, new year or my birthday (February)….could it be that it knows I would struggle to give up drinking at those times ?

For those of you still trying to conceive I would highly recommend the following as I’m not sure I’d have a positive without them:

Taking Charge Of Your Fertility: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement and Reproductive Health: The Definitive Guide to … Pregnancy Achievement and Reproductive Wealth

This is the second month we tried this and I got a positive, maybe a coincidence, who knows?
Conceive Plus Fertility Lubricant Individual Use Applicators – 8 Pack

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Anyone who’s been trying for a baby for a while can tell you how gut-wrenching it is when you realise that this month is not the month. And that is what happened to me today.

It doesn’t matter how you realise you’re not pregnant, the pain is the same. I have had months when it’s been because my temperature has dipped and stayed low, other months when the familiar monthly cramps start, warning me of what’s to come, and then there’s the clearest message, the negative pregnancy test.

I may be wrong, but I do tend to think that the only people who can really relate to this pain are those who have taken a while to conceive too. They too can understand your heart sinking, the sickening feeling in your stomach and the realisation that what you’ve spent the last few weeks hoping for and dreaming about is not about to come true.

Having said all that I really can’t complain; it took us 8 months to conceive L (age 30) and this time round (age 36) we’re now on month 6. I know that in medical terms this is not a long time, and for those who tried for years, and even had to give up their dream of becoming mums, this is nothing. But for me it felt like forever the first time round and this time again.

There are always those well-meaning people – who you want to throttle – who will remind you of your monthly failure by saying things like “you’ve been married for ages now, isn’t it about time you started thinking of starting a family?” which is what I got when trying for L. This time round, as it’s 6 years on, it’s “surely you’re not going to leave her as an only child, a baby brother or a sister is long overdue.” Those are the comments you really want to hear on the days you’ve got a negative!

And so it is today that my hopes are dashed again. I was going to do a test this weekend if nothing happened this week, but the familiar cramps from last night have materialised today into full proof that this month is not the month. I’ll try and keep my chin up though, only another couple of weeks before we can start trying again, and then another couple of weeks after that it might just be a positive…

For those trying to conceive, this book was invaluable for our conception with L, and has proved very useful again this time round:
Taking Charge Of Your Fertility: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement and Reproductive Health: The Definitive Guide to … Pregnancy Achievement and Reproductive Wealth

We are also trying this product which has good reviews, this month was the first month and it didn’t work but who knows what next month might have in store:
Conceive Plus Fertility Lubricant Individual Use Applicators – 8 Pack

Disclaimer: All links to Amazon in this post are affiliate links, meaning if you click on them and then buy from Amazon I will receive an affiliate’s commission on those sales. You will not pay more than buying directly from Amazon and this income helps to maintain the blog.