How to find your own mummy friends
When you’re a child you make friends at school, and as you get older friends come from university or jobs. Then the one point in your life when you really need friends who know what you’re going through – motherhood – you get stuck. It’s very rare that your existing, local, friends are having children at the same time as you, so becoming a mum can be quite a lonely time.
The NCT can be great if you meet like-minded people, and are able to attend courses around work. But often the timings aren’t right, or you don’t click with the handful of people in your group. So what can you do to find mummy friends?
You can hang around your local playground and pounce on any mums that turn up. But it can be a bit demeaning, and you might get a bad name for yourself!
Luckily there is a new option, a fantastic organisation called Match Up Mums, which is a bit like a dating agency, but for mummy friends instead of boyfriends. You enter information into a questionnaire about yourself – age, location, age of children, interests, education level, background etc and you get matched up with similar mums locally.
Match Up Mums was set up by Megan, a mum of 3 (twin boys aged 5 and a 3 year old daughter) who has been there relatively recently, and knows just how important it is to have that vital support network of mummy friends around you.
She first had the idea for Match Up Mums after explaining to her pregnant sister-in-law how “hit and miss” traditional antenatal courses can be for making new friends.
They are hit and miss for a good reason, in that they are only based on your due date, not your personality or your interests, so it it is down to luck whether you meet like-minded people there. Some people make amazing friendships there, but sadly not everyone is as lucky.
Match Up Mums was founded in 2013 and the website went live in 2014. It has proven to be a huge success so far – Megan has matched up nearly 80 groups of mummy friends right across London.
As well as being introduced to local like-minded mums, members also benefit from a range of exclusive discounts, at partners like JoJo Maman Bébé, Mama Knows Best and Lulubaby.
I was lucky enough to be invited by Megan to try out Match Up Mums locally, and I have found it to be fantastic! The questionnaire was brilliant, really well thought-out, and I have been matched up with a couple of groups, including one with French mums, which is lovely as I do miss my mummy friends from France.
The mums I’ve been matched up with are definitely like-minded, with similar career paths, or backgrounds, or interests, and most importantly they’re local. So far I have met up for playdates twice and have dinner out later this week, sans enfants, with the French mums. And I’m LOVING it!
Pricing is ridiculously cheap, especially when you think how much antenatal classes cost. Membership ranges from £10 at Bronze level to £50 at Gold level (one-off cost), and there is currently a discount at the moment with free Bronze level and £35 Gold level. With the Gold level you get larger groups of mums, so more mummy friends!
This is likely to be one of the best investments you make as a new mum, and I massively recommend it to all pregnant women and mums of little ones. If you want to know more or to sign up, head along to Match Up Mums and start meeting “your” mummy friends.
At the moment Match Up Mums can only offer their services to London mums, but I’m certain that it won’t be long before something this great expands right across the UK. If you sign up to the Bronze membership you’ll get all the benefits of the discounts, then when the company expands outside of London you’ll be ready and waiting!
All photos: © MatchUpMums.com
Disclosure: Megan from Match Up Mums kindly gifted me a Gold membership, in order to be able to test the services out for this blog post. As ever the words and opinions are my own.
Discovering these mummy friends has brought so much joy into my life, so I’m linking today’s blog post up with Share the Joy with Michelle from Bod for Tea. Click on the image below to read some more joyful posts: