Not being a shouty mummy
After 2 weeks of school holidays it was back to school this morning, and back to the rush, rush, rush of the morning routine. And suddenly shouty mummy is back in town.
Surely I’m not the only one here who spends their time yelling at their kids? “Get dressed, eat your breakfast, brush your teeth, put your shoes on…” again and again and again, until it sinks in and said child does what has been asked of them.
The thing is, it came as a bit of a shock this morning, as for the last 2 weeks shouty mummy has been away. There have been no time restrictions, no things we HAVE to do, so we’ve been going with the flow. I worked the first week, but as a childminder I set what we did and made sure there was no rush, even with trains to catch for a visit to Chessington with 4 children.
And then it was our turn for family holiday and switch off time. We didn’t do much as Hubs was working and money is a bit tight at the moment, so the girls and I spent some time at my parents’ leaving Hubs to house and pet-sit.
We took time out and went and visited my brother and sister-in-law near Birmingham, with my parents.
Despite it being fairly tight in the car, we had a lovely road trip with L reading to herself or having me read Carrie’s War to her – taking me back to my childhood.
My mum, my sister-in-law, L, C and I went to Cannock Chase Park for an afternoon stroll and it was lovely – I totally recommend it if you’re anywhere in the West Midlands area, L had a ball there!
After blowing away the cobwebs we went back to Uncle A and Auntie E’s house and just chilled together en famille.
Although I spend a great deal of my time with L and C, it’s not always quality time. When I’m childminding I tend to concentrate more on the children I’m paid to look after, assuming that my kids will be fine as they’re fairly easy. When those children have gone home it’s the rush to get ready for bed, or do chores at the weekend. And yes, I can be a shouty mummy with L.
The difference in myself and my relationship with L during these holidays, when I wasn’t rushing, or stressed, and so wasn’t being Shouty Mummy, was incredible. I’m lucky in that L and I have a fantastic relationship, even when I am being shouty mummy. But this past week we talked, we laughed, we giggled, we were silly together, we had fun together. It was WONDERFUL.
All of this has made me want more. More fun time with L. More laughter. More chats. More cuddles. (Don’t get me wrong, it’s not all about L, but as the 7 year old, she sees far more of Shouty Mummy than C, at 17 months old, does.)
So, from now on, I’m going to try and make sure we have enough time to not have to rush, rush, rush, so I don’t have to shout. I’m going to try and make sure that every day has its fun moments. It will be hard, I know it will. We’ll get back into our routine. L will leave her clothes on the bathroom floor, I’ll nag her to put them away. She’ll daydream when she should be eating her breakfast, I’ll get frustrated with her. But I’m going to attempt to keep the fun and laughter in our daily life, despite us being back at school and at work.
And to remind me of how much fun we did have, and can have, here are a couple more pics of our Easter holiday 🙂
Are you a shouty mummy? Does it bother you? Do you try not to be a shouty mummy?