Peaches Geldof’s death and why I blog
A few hours ago I heard on the radio that a 25 year old mum of two boys, both under 2 years old, had just died. Peaches Geldof’s death has shaken those I know on social media, and in particular other parents of young children.
I was literally in tears as I read what father, Bob Geldof and husband, Thomas Cohen had to say about Peaches here.
I’m not interested in how or why she died. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that tonight there are two babies who have lost a mummy, a husband who has lost a wife, a father who has lost a daughter, sisters who have lost their sister, and many more family members and friends who have lost someone close.
I have a 7 year old daughter and a (nearly) 17 month old daughter, and this evening there have been even more hugs dealt out to them than usual.
For a long time I’ve been thinking about why I blog, really why, and Peaches’ death makes me realise ultimately what this blog is about. This is my message to my family. This is my way of explaining to those close to me how much I love them.
If anything were to happen to me (because let’s face it life is so bloody fragile) I hope that my children could read this when they were older, and know just how much I love them. Uh-oh, cue tears as I write this.
I write openly, honestly and from the heart. I write about the mundane, every day stuff of our family life, I commit it to this blog so that it will be remembered. I write for me. I write for Hubs. I write for my parents. But above all I write for my beautiful, precious girls (ok, floods of tears now as I write).
In the past I’ve written letters to those close to me on my blog – my mum, my dad, Hubs, my 7 year old, L, and my nearly 17 month old, C. I hope to let them know how loved they are through these letters. But in case they didn’t know it, Mum, Dad, Hubs, L and C – you mean the world to me, know that I love you more than you can ever imagine, and that the thought of losing any of you leaves me feeling utterly bereft. Thank you for being who you are, and for being the best parents, husband and children that anyone could wish for.
Life is so short, I have seen husbands lose wives, parents lose young children, and children lose parents long before any of them should. Embrace life. Live every minute. Soak it up, take it in, and make the most of it.
And if you have anyone you love in your life. Tell them. Show them. Love them. Hug them. Kiss them. Every day. As if it were your last.
Ok, I have to stop writing now, as I’m an absolute mess. So here are some photos of me with my very special people. I love you all so much.
All photos were taken at my brother and sister-in-law’s wedding last year. Such a happy day for all our family. I haven’t mentioned the other people in my life as this could go on forever, but family, extended family, friends, know that you are all loved too xx
I also like the fact that I can leave a written legacy for my children. My own mum was not very good at sharing how she felt or telling us how much she loved us, and was proud of us, so I want to be able to have my children read this to know about their lives, if something ever happened to me.
I am so sickened by the media frenzy over it all though, she died this afternoon and they are like vultures. My heart breaks for her husband, and babies and her Dad and sisters. It’s not like they haven’t dealt with so much already.
Lovely post, you had me in tears too!
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Those were the words I couldn’t find – a written legacy. That’s what I want to leave my children, if anything were to happen to me. The media craziness is disgusting, let them grieve in peace. Thanks for commenting lovely x
Lovely post. It’s so tragic isn’t it? I’ve just been thinking about the two babies and how they’ll be confused tonight because they want mummy. So
So sad. Poor poor girl and her poor family. I can’t even imagine 🙁
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Thank you. It’s so so sad. I can’t begin to imagine how my youngest would be if I suddenly never came back (oh God, cue more tears). Poor family, here’s hoping they get to grieve in peace.
Hey, I share your sentiments, ‘shocked me to the core’ pretty much describes the feeling. I wrote a few similar words to yours at the start of my linky post for tomorrow, I know the press will grind into it’s usual coverage mode for this kind of thing, but ultimately all that matters is that a young mother has died before her time and her two young sons are left, along with everyone else who knew and love her, to live life without her. xx
I just can’t stop thinking about it, and thinking about a husband going to bed without his wife, and two babies wondering where their mummy has gone. Life is so precious.
It’s so incredibly sad. Those poor boys who will don’t know or understand that mummy isn’t coming back. It really got me when looking at a pic she posted earlier in the week saying how her youngest loved looking at old pictures of her – so sad as that’s all he has now 🙁
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It’s just so so sad, there are no other words. Those poor baby boys.
when i heard the news it made me gasp out loud. i can’t begin to imagine the devastation the family must be feeling right now. my friend was taken from her family last year, left two young children and my heart absolutely aches that they no longer have their wonderful mother by their side. by all accounts peaches had blossomed into the most wonderful mother too and no my heart aches for her children and her family even though i don’t know them personally 🙁
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That’s exactly it – it’s the thought of those kids (and all kids) who are left behind with no mum, it does make your heart ache.
One of the very reasons I blog and I couldn’t agree more with what you say. A massive hug for you as for some reason this death has also hit me hard and I’ve had an emotional evening – I think it’s because she was so openly a besotted mum.x
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Exactly. To have such a good mum taken from two such small boys, it’s just too sad. I just hope that my kids might one day like looking through the blog posts that talk about our everyday lives together.
It’s just heartbreaking isn’t it – the confusion that those two babies must be feeling, the not understanding, the fear. Such a lovely post about why you blog as well, leaving a written legacy is something so wonderful for your family. I wish I could say the same but I think I write more for me if I’m brutally honest. It’s made me think though… x
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It’s exactly that – confusion, fear, not understanding. Those poor boys.
Oh I’ve got a tear in my eye too 🙁 it’s so sad when you look at your own kids and think how it will be for hers. All of us are giving our babies extra big cuddles x
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Lots of quality time for my girls this week and extra big cuddles and I love yous, life is too short 🙁
Such a beautiful and moving post and so true. I tell my kids I love them every day, but not my husband or parents. My blog too is a record of how much I love my children, but other members of my family have asked not to appear as they don’t feel comfortable with it.
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Thank you Sarah. My parents and Hubs are used to my oversharing, but other family members not necessarily so. I try to communicate with all those close to me what they mean to me, as you just never know.
A beautiful post. It is also exactly why I write ‘Dear Molly – our life in letters’ A legacy for my beautiful girl to hold onto.
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Thank you. I always hope that writing it down is something they will appreciate as they get older.
What a lovely post Sophie. I too am devastated for the family. It has made me hold Z that little bit closer as the thought of us being separated too early is too much to bear. I do take some comfort in that he would have my blog to read as he gets older though and would know how much I loved him *cue tears*
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Thank you Sarah. It’s just too sad. Lots of extra cuddles and I love yous this week I think.
I feel so sorry for Peaches’ children and all the children whose parents have been taken from them too early. And this is why I try never to let my boys go to bed with a kiss and a cuddle, for we never know when that may be our last one.
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You just never know, so we should show our love every day, as too late would be devastating.
This sounds like a really emotional post to write and I’m not surprised – so moving and sad but love the message of love. You all look great in the photos, so happy and loving. Great post.
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Thank you. I was just writing and crying, it was so emotional. But nowhere near what the Geldof family is going through, or other families going through grief.
A beautiful post darling, I felt exactly the same, hit me hard, just so, so tragic and devastating, can’t stop thinking of her sons, husband and family. Lots of love x
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Thank you, so so sad 🙁
This is a beautiful post and yep, it’s important to tell those we care about that we love them all the time. As both my daughters are away at uni, I always get moaned at when I end every conversation with those 3 little words, it never stops me though.
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I can’t imagine having grown up children who might complain about hugs, kisses and I love yous – I’ll have to stock up on that while they’re little then!