Raising feisty females
I’m a feisty female. Born of a feisty female. Who in turn was born of a feisty female. But we live in a day and age where feminism has become a dirty word, and many feminists deny being one. Girls are called bossy and it’s seen as being bad. Being ambitious has negative connotations and we talk about “having balls” as being a good, but men-only, thing.
Quite frankly, what is that all about? When did we/society decide that girls and women needed to be shrinking wallflowers to be “good”.
I say sod that whilst proudly raising my two feisty females.
I tell my daughters they can be whatever they set their minds to. I teach them that having confidence is a good thing. I want them to understand that being female is not a negative and shouldn’t stop them from doing anything. Be it a stay-at-home-mum, be it a rocket scientist, be it a future prime minister.
I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers, and we were raised equally. We were all taught to do household chores from a young age; when we hit 13 we were all taught how to iron and from then on had to iron our own clothes. We were taught we could do any jobs we wanted, regardless of gender, and I now have a sister who’s a doctor and a brother who works in Human Resources.
I often think of my poor dad – married to a feisty female, who then had 3 feisty daughters before having 2 sons. He didn’t have a lot of peace for many years, but I’m pretty certain he looks at his successful daughters now and is proud of who we are and what we’ve become.
Which is why Hubs and I are raising our girls to be feisty females. To not just sit back and accept whatever life throws at them. To question. To question and to change what seems wrong.
HOWEVER this does not mean we are teaching them that all that matters is getting their way. We also explain the importance of other people’s feelings when trying to achieve your ambitions. And hopefully they will become strong, sensitive, rounded women.
But then again, who knows? We just have to teach them as best we can and hope it all works out.
So far our girls have certainly got strong characters. Even at not quite 2 our youngest, C, has gone from being our chilled baby to a feisty toddler. And I say bring it on!
Although you may need to send wine to help me survive the next few years…..
What do you think? If you have daughters do you raise them to be feisty? Or do you prefer them to be more demure? Or maybe you are naturally feisty and were raised to be demure? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this one.