A throw away comment from a 4 year old recently made me stop and think. I had told her that Hubs was in bed as he was ill, and she replied “my daddy goes to bed when he’s ill, but my mummy doesn’t, she looks after us”. And this made me stop and think. It’s the same in our house. But it didn’t use to be that way.
Before I went on maternity leave last August we had a 5 year old daughter, Hubs and I worked full-time, 5 days a week, and we had a live-in au pair. If I was too ill to go to work (which admittedly was fairly rare) I could take time off, and actually go to bed and get better. Our au pair would deal with our daughter, and Hubs would deal with other household chores whilst I was recovering.
Then I went on maternity leave. And decided not to return to my old job, but to retrain as a childminder. Which means there is no au pair. There is no back-up plan now. When C was a few weeks’ old I got flu (yes, despite having the flu vaccine when pregnant – apparently there are different strains), I felt awful and there was no way I could deal with a 6 year old and a small baby. Fortunately my parents don’t live too far away, are retired and very generous with their time when it comes to their children and grandchildren, so my mum came and looked after the kids whilst I got better.
However in general I try not to ask my parents too much, and I do try to keep going. And that’s where you’ll find me today. Battling on. Everyone in the family has had this cold/flu bug that’s been going round. I thought I’d escaped it, but on Monday evening it hit. Since then I’ve been fighting the sinus headaches, sore throat, achy neck, clicky ear, achy joints and shivers.
Fortunately the girls are amazing sleepers so at least when I go to bed I’m not disturbed. But I have to say this is the only time I miss my old job – getting sick days. So today, these, along with the kids, are my company:
The full title of this post should actually be: No sick days for Mummys or why I haven’t blogged at all or been on social media much in nearly a week. Normal service should hopefully be resumed soon.